The older I got the more I understood that with people, you just have to take what you "see" as the good and leave what you "see" as the bad (this is relative). The only person that you can control in a relationship is yourself so becoming the Manager in your relationships is vital. Leaving this role for just anyone to take up, results in friendship break ups, up-roars and avoidable disputes.
Then again, there are some friendships that are just poisonous, not necessary that the person is evil but the reaction that is created between your "chi" (soul) and their "chi" is just toxic. In most cases this "Bad friend" is someone else' genuine best-friend and even role-model.
Recently, a good friend described me as an introverted extrovert. After thinking about it, I kinda agree with this label cos to be honest, I feel like its the best way to be. I am not a very good relationship manager so seasons and reasons have morphed me into an I.E and effortlessly too. I have grown to understand that not all relationships (outside of marriage) is forever; Sometimes, a mutual break-up is necessary so that there is no animosity but other times, just walking away is the best you can do really. Learning to bury a friendship and not mourn it nor denigrate comes with simple maturity.
